This is going to be a short post because it’s a simple question: do men enjoy sex more than women?
I eat ice cream about once a month. There are people out there who eat ice cream every day. It’s reasonable to assume these people enjoy ice cream more than I do, yes?
So, if men want to have sex every day with every hot woman they see, and women only want to have sex once a month and only with that “special someone”, is it not also completely reasonable to assume that men enjoy sex more than women?
If women enjoy sex as much as men, what possible explanation is there for them not wanting to have it very often?
PS: Readers might also be interested in my other post, What Do Women Find Attractive in a Man?
“”Jesus, I don’t have the tolerance to wade through all the bullshit on the other posts”"
Translation: My self-defense mechanisms prevent me from reading facts and arguments that contradict my cult(beliefs), so I convince myself its all bullshit, so I don’t have to read information that proves my cult is wrong.
“”I am sincerely curious, is there that much pent up resentment towards women because they are demanding equal rights? not giving you enough sex?”"
Do a search on “the marriage strike”. Men have been performing more suicides than women for ages, but right now its up to 400% more suicides than women due to the latest generations of man-bashing culture.
Yes, men ARE angry. Men are sick and tired of being blamed for everything. Men are sick and tired of being expected to provide for women, provide happines, provide satisfaction, take all the damn risks, and not even get appreciation in return.
Men are sick and tired of being expected to work, plead, beg and pay for sex, and then being told its THEIR fault. Men are sick and tired of being blamed by the sex who has life easy (women).
Men are sick and tired of being told that supposedly women love sex, but then being expected to be the one to go and MAKE IT HAPPEN.
Men are sick and tired of women claiming to be equally able and equally motivated, yet sitting around passively and waiting for men to do all the work, and then whining when you’re not as smooth as george clooney.
We are sick and tired of being expected to do all the work, take all the risks, get the least rewards, and then being blamed when things don’t go right between the genders. Men have been thought for ages to just grit your teeth and shut-up, repress your emotions and feelings, be a man, and just take it. But its reaching a boiling point. Men can no longer take it.
I would like to state for the record that this is not a feminist issue, and I’m surprised it has been made into one. I could have said, “men are taller than women,” and the feminists would have been all over me crying sexism. Of course I’ve seen tall women, we are talking bell curves here after all, but generally it’s true: men are taller than women. Get it through your heads that men and women are not equal, they are different.
The women posting here seem to be quite defensive, but there’s no reason to be. No one is saying that women are inferior because they enjoy sex less. In fact, men enjoying sex so much is a large contributor to violence all over the world, and the world would probably be a better place if men weren’t quite so sex-crazed.
I don’t think we should ignore the obvious just because it makes men and women seem unequal, or because it offends somebody. There are many obvious differences between the sexes: men enjoy sports more, women fawn over babies more, men are stronger, women are better with language.
When you think about it, the idea that men and women enjoy sex EXACTLY the same is pretty unlikely and would be quite a cosmic coincidental roll of the dice. I really think the only way the genders are going to be able to understand each other better is to accept reality, especially the obvious realities, and in this case it’s pretty obvious that men enjoy sex more. Again, there’s nothing wrong with that. Women probably enjoy the relationship part of relationships much more
Remember: not equal, but different. Different, not better or worse.
Nice point Phillip. And this is how feminists are, they make everything into an issue.
If it were the other way round, and women enjoyed sex more, they’d get into a defensive hissy fit and accuse you of hating women for daring suggest that women enjoy sex more.
The main thing about feminism is that its a very rigid cult. Its motto is EXACTLY THE SAME or else… Lol. Anytime you dare dicuss gender differences, you are an enemy to be dispatched of.
There is no right and wrong. Both genders have equal value in nature. There’s nothing inherently good about male traits or female traits. They’re just… different.
well, I wanted to say that i am am woman and I love sex…
Having sex two or three times a day is a perfect day for me. It is great for my boyfriend also, keeps him slim and trim from all thi ae calories we burn.
AND..my neighbor hasn’t had sex in four weeks..he just doesn’t feel like it.
I agree that women and men are different, but I would never say that men enjoy sex more than women; they just enjoy it more often than a number of women. I would bet money that we (women) love to orgasim just as much as any guy out there.
I’ve also noticed that many women have been trying to use the following as a counter example: “I enjoy sex, and I’m a woman, therefore women enjoy sex just as much as men.” Unfortunately, that isn’t arguing the same point. Nobody is saying that women don’t enjoy sex. Of course they do.
I think a good analogy would be millionaires versus billionaires. I love money. Most people do. However, if I came into a million dollars, I would probably retire. You see, I love money only up to a certain point. Other people, like Warren Buffett, keep accumulating money into the billions upon billions of dollars. Again, I would LOVE my million dollars, I would love my retirement, I would enjoy it, I would never take it for granted, but let’s be serious, Warren Buffett loves money way more than I do.
It’s the same thing with women. Lots of women are content to only have sex once per week, or once per day, or only with one person, or prefer a romantic dinner, or cuddling, or chocolate, but men aren’t like that, because we like sex more. That’s just the way it is. It also makes sense evolutionarily: women are supposed to have sex with one person and get pregnant, whereas men are supposed to have sex with everyone.
Nice analogy Philip. The money analogy is simply excellent. And yes, the “I like sex, so women must like sex as much as men, is a non-argument”.
I have a nice clipping for you (gay men vs. lesbian women and numbers of partners:
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“Gay author Gabriel Rotello notes the perspective of many gays that “Gay liberation was founded . . . on a ‘sexual brotherhood of promiscuity,’ and any abandonment of that promiscuity would amount to a ‘communal betrayal of gargantuan proportions.’” Rotello’s perception of gay promiscuity, which he criticizes, is consistent with survey results. A far-ranging study of homosexual men published in 1978 revealed that 75 percent of self-identified, white, gay men admitted to having sex with more than 100 different males in their lifetime: 15 percent claimed 100-249 sex partners; 17 percent claimed 250- 499; 15 percent claimed 500-999; and 28 percent claimed more than 1,000 lifetime male sex partners. By 1984, after the AIDS epidemic had taken hold, homosexual men were reportedly curtailing promiscuity, but not by much. Instead of more than 6 partners per month in 1982, the average non-monogamous respondent in San Francisco reported having about 4 partners per month in 1984.
Promiscuity among lesbians is less extreme, but it is still higher than among heterosexual women. Overall, women tend to have fewer sex partners than men. But there is a surprising finding about lesbian promiscuity in the literature. Australian investigators reported that lesbian women were 4.5 times more likely to have had more than 50 lifetime male partners than heterosexual women (9 percent of lesbians versus 2 percent of heterosexual women); and 93 percent of women who identified themselves as lesbian reported a history of sex with men. Other studies similarly show that 75-90 percent of women who have sex with women have also had sex with men. ”
The Health Risks of Gay Sex
JOHN R. DIGGS, JR., M.D.
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Compare gay to lesbian amounts of sex… But this doesn’t capture the full point as there are really bisexual women, not strictly lesbian.
I actually have some good data, unfortunately in paper books I can’t copy paste here relating to how often lesbians in relationships have sex vs. how often gays in relationships have sex, and hot long it takes from meet to sex for each.
I’d say i agree with the notion that it seems men enjoy sex more…it was interesting to read thru some of the other comments here…to evaluate the question i’d examine frequency, inclination, and see whether or not the woman who says “I have sex all the time!” is in the minority or the majority, which again, would fall under frequency. And from the other websites i’ve visited i’ve gathered that men have it more often, and that women are less inclined to want it than men. also, from my own personal experience, i have never initiated sex myself except for on one occasion out of many (like, fifteen, i guess)- it was always the guy. i don’t enjoy sex, reasons for that irrelevant. and oddly enough, my own female friends have reported that they, too, do not enjoy it, nevermind that they have had it at least as many times as I if not more. the evidence may not altogether be conclusive but it does give insight. the fact that i didn’t initiate it myself, again, isn’t conclusive, as many factors go into why i may have chosen not to, but i’ll go on and say that i flat out didn’t want to. for me it wasn’t about societal pressure to let the man make the first move, and i doubt that my partners necessarily felt said pressure to make first move. for them it was curiosity, i think, and then general expectation of satisfaction…with me, that latter part was not there. but going back to my findings, women tend to go on more about how much they enjoy the relationship part of intimacy rather than the physicality. so my friends and i could relate to the broad spectrum of heterosexual females out there in that regard.
That’s a very audacious and simplistic statement to make, considering that men and women are socialized differently, not to mention society has been ignorant about female sexuality for a very long time. Even in this day and age there are still many people who are ignorant on the subject of pleasuring a woman. Men, throughout the years, were raised to be sexually aggressive and promiscuous, while women were raised to be the opposite. In the old days, the man’s pleasure was considered more important, and the woman’s pleasure was not given as much regard. Nowadays, things are different, but one cannot deny that traces of the old attitudes towards sex are still present, only in latent form. So while there are many women who don’t seem to enjoy or want sex as much as your typical guy, the reason for this may not be because it is in their nature. Never forget the social/cultural influence on human behaviour.
And there is more to sex drive than testosterone, obviously… What about cases in which men have low sex drives – lower than other men as well as other women. These men still have WAAAAY more testosterone than women, but there are still women with apparently higher sex drives. Why is that? Does testosterone even play an equal role in a woman’s sex drive, or is a woman’s sex drive more complicated than that?
The situations faced by men and women are different. Therefore, comparing male and female sexual enjoyment is a complicated process. We do not know enough to make a proper comparison in the first place. Though, I would say that it differs a lot more on an individual basis than according to one’s gender.
Also, there is a distinct difference between “wanting sex” and “enjoying sex”. And the reason for a person not wanting sex as often may not be because they do not enjoy it as much as others. Once again, that is a simplistic statement.
Hey Alek I totally agree with you. Work, pay bills, do this, do that, initicate sex whenever it does happen…sometimes I feel they are useless. I cook on my owne, I wash my patrol uniforms, I pay my bills and to top it off I still give extra money for my kid!
Women are then to ask for the dinners and the lets go on the vactions. Where the fuck is the sex when I want it after a stressfull days at work. I am tired of begging or hearing “I tired; Im not in the mood; dont wanna be touched…” Fuck that. Give me a chick who at least wants to have sex 3 time a week and I will be happy.
I stay because of my kid denying my happiness or living a normal social life. She goes out with her friends to be in pictures for night club website yet its a bitch when I wanna go out with my FD buddies or my brothers.
She dont complain when the bills are paid for. He Lexus looks really nice too. The complains dont come when it comes to that. They come in when it come time to have sex.
I wish I could find it in her to try and seduce me. Dress sexy at night for me. Just do something! All im saying is, when it does happen, it as if she’s a 2X4.
I truely hate my relationship. All she is….is a great cook. Other than that I feel she hit menupause at 30. Its been 4 year of hell. Im thirty and after 8 years together, I cant take it. My ball are so full cum. Well SOMEONE GIVE ME ADVICE PLEASE.
‘Male Brain’: Why men obsess over sex
“Perhaps the biggest difference between the male and female brain is that men have a sexual pursuit area that is 2.5 times larger than the one in the female brain”
Men who complain the women don’t innitiate sex or dont have sex enough are not well educated as to the reasons why. But I should note that women are to blame for this misinformation in today’s society. Every woman knows, that to attract and keep a man interested, they will need to ‘put out’ because if they dont the man will surely leave them. Woman want emotional security in a relationship and usually will be completely satisfied with being with one man for the rest of their lives. The problem lies when they get married and the woman has had the man commit to her, and no longer feels the need to often ‘fake’ interest in sex to keep up with the male sex drive. Often it is not that women have completely lost interest in sex, because the drive was hardly there in the beginning, and was only amplified because of womans need to capture emotional intimacy from physical intimacy.
The female body was not created equal to the male mody when it comes to sexual satisfaction. A woman has very little feeling and nerve endings in her vagina. The majority of women get nothing out of vaginal penetration…NOTHING! But most men dont know this…yes, there are about 15% of women who have a g-spot that can be stimulated, or who can have an orgasm with vaginal penetration alone with indirect stimulation of the clitoris..Yes, the clitoris is located far away from the vagina, and it is the clitoris that can give a woman an orgasm. Many women find vaginal penetration to feel like NOTHING, or feel discomfort. Pornography is extremely faked showing women moaning and groaning after being penetrated. Women really need clitoral stimulation, or thrustin/grinding during penetration, not the in a and out motion most often shown in a porno. Womans bodies were created in such a way that vaginal penetration is not really satisfying. Vaginal penetration only good for conceiving a child or for the 15% of women that can feel a little bit of something…but its mostly for a mans pleasure
I look at it like this “role reversal”….A woman penetrates a man with a dildo and the man says, “that hurts” or “that feels weird” or “that is kind of a nice sensation”….well if a woman kept doing this to a man he wouldnt enjoy it enough because it either feels weird, or because he needs some sexual stimulation elsewhere to reach orgasm…and thats true…a man needs stimulation to his “johnson” otherwise, not much is going to happen.
Well the same holds true for women. The clitorus is where its at, not the vagina….so next time you go and penetrate a woman ask yourself if you would like to be penetrated in the way that I just listed above? Is the answer NO? Well no wonder you wouldnt be in the mood for that!!!
The same reason that women arent in the mood for vaginal penetration..Get it? A lot of women just fake how much they like it when it;s just okay…not great. if it were great, they’d want it again and again
Woman also have to deal with fluctuating hormones that truely mess with their libidos. Woman weren’t meant to be sexaholics even though there is a small percentage lucky to have this problem…if they were, then the family unit would have fell apart hundreds of years ago.
I think there is too much emphasis on womans lack of sex drive in the media…the truth is I think the real problem is men are over sexed and are sex addicts (remember Tiger Woods?)…the focus should be on that. It’s all they think about, and they put too much pressure on the female to participate.
If a woman asks you to do an activity that you’re not in the mood to do, do you simply keep saying yes?
wow. well said Truetolife. Well said. That’s bullocks. I wish women wanted sex as much as us. They will say just about anything to make us believe they like it more, but hell no they don’t. It’s scientific fact, just research it.
If you gave a woman a man’s sex drive one day out of their lives they wouldn’t be able to handle it. They would probably become better at masturbating, however
My generalization is that women only use/have sex when they:
1) use it as a currency.
to please their friends or make them jealous.
2) want to make their man do something he does not wish to do.
3) do it just because it is a celebratory event.
4) of course when they want kids.
5) to keep their man.
6) to make a man attracted.
7) to relieve their man’s pent-up sexual aggression.
9) to exercise power over the man.
10) use sex as blackmail.
11) use sex to move up in social position.
12) exchange it for money.
13) want to get attention from their man.
14) withholding sex for punishment. (those fucks!)
15) need to balance out their marriage.
16) are rarely horny enough to crave it and ask for it.
There are many more reasons why they have it and they are all different from our own. Our best luck will be when mankind creates female robots sooooo life-like that we can’t tell the robot women are actually robots and we can program their ‘sexual schedules’ and delete their hormones from the RAM and hard drive (HOO-RAH!). lol
There’s my two cents. Until the day we create robot women that have vaginas as equally life-like as real womens we’re pretty much doomed
BUT, the day those women robots ARE invented, real women are pretty much doomed
Oh yeah, i’m not married, but I heard once you get married sex life is good starting out but then goes downhill fast… Plus you can’t go out and find another women who wants sex when she doesn’t. Or can you??…(Tiger Woods) Hey Hillary Clinton probably stopped putting out and look what happened with Bill Clinton. Can you blame him? lol Any guys want to comment on sex after marriage?
-D
To WOW:
I guess the day female robots are created the male types would be available too, so human males will mate robot females and human females mate robot males. After a few years, a generation of well-satisfied humans will vanish from the earth and robot males and females rule the earth.
I just wonder how many years it takes before robotic-feminism creates hell on earth for the male models!
Wow. You men have it all wrong about women. I can say this because, well, I’m a women. I love the way his strong manhood goes in and out of me, it feels delicious, especially when he goes deep. I moan because I can’t take it anymore the way he feels inside drives me crazy and I just want to be on top of him myself already so I can ride him as I please, because he just doesn’t seem to get how much he’s teasing me with his unaggressive in and out movement. I may not get orgasms eachtime, because I noticed I tend to get them mostly when I’m ovulating, but when I do I am so thankfull to him because the feeling is just so relaxing, and make sure I repay him well for it.
What are these people talking about?
From a scientific biological standpoint, women enjoy sex MUCH more than men. This is because women have more pleasure sensing nerves than men, so therefore enjoy sex much much more than men can ever dream of enjoying sex
Men on average have more urges to have sex, but don’t enjoy sex as much. Men think and believe they enjoy sex a lot, but women really really really enjoy sex A LOT
Urges and pleasure are two separate things.
theOnewithoutASecond is totally right — women have been tested in labs and confirmed common sense:
They can ride higher and have orgasms one after another with them all merging and taking over their bodies. One study did a brain scan of two dozen women “thinking off” (they couldn’t find any men who could have no-touch “think off” orgasms). Result? Orgasm affected every part of a woman’s brain but the VERY brief flicker of orgasm took part in a crude satisfaction part of the male brain. So short it was hard to get a reading on men but it was the part of the brain that satisfied an itch or urge (hence “getting (it) off”).
In a word, if men knew (I am a man) how much pleasure women can register, they would want orgasmic equality (and not just orgasms — men are quiet because they are concentrating on NOT having pleasure because they might “go over.” How screwed up is that? But MOTHER Nature made us that way. Sucks.
That’s right. Not only women enjoy stronger orgasms but they also can have multiple orgasms. A feat hardly doable by a man.
So ultimately as a guy, I realise society and my brain TRY to make me think of myself as a sex addict even though women are the one enjoying it most.
Stupid brain.
@Aleck
I am not sick of being the hunter. It is fun once you know that they all want it. It is just not evident for some of them and or some of us. (They deny it otherwise they are treated as sluts, aren’t they?)
Mostly a question of attitude toward life. ;P
True to life scares me
Does a man being buggered with a strap-on really compare to intercourse? No!!! I mean it’s not like the woman wearing it evens feels anything from the penetration. Pussies self-lubricate for a reason, while assholes don’t. Yes, men and women are different sexually, but we are the same species. Nature gave us” fucking” as a delicious, fun compromise that is designed to be pleasurable for both genders.
Most men will actually have better, stronger orgasms being serviced by three, tight, 20 years old at the same time rather than missionary with our wife of 10 years… The 1st to deep throat us, the 2nd to lick our balls, and the 3rd to strip , but then that’s just being greedy…. and we know it, unlike you and your special requests.
If you can’t come from intercourse maybe you should try getting on top. You act as if your clit is on your forehead, not a part of your genitals. Women who can’t be satisfied from coitus are probably doing it wrong. Female orgasm was around 4 million years before vibrators, electricity and feminists.
In my country, ie India, we have a saying which in english goes somethign like “god always gives the stick to a guy who doesnt knw how to throw it”. Women get much more pleasure from sex but they dont want it. While men on the other hand are constantly trying to have sex. Lets face it ppl, its a funny world. And theres nothing we can do abt it. (Except maybe wait for those horny women robots
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hy im miley and i only have 10 years old
im being asking my mom to talk to me about sex but she saids that not now but exiting to do it whith my boyfriend named justin can you tell me how to do it