This is going to be a short post because it’s a simple question: do men enjoy sex more than women?
I eat ice cream about once a month. There are people out there who eat ice cream every day. It’s reasonable to assume these people enjoy ice cream more than I do, yes?
So, if men want to have sex every day with every hot woman they see, and women only want to have sex once a month and only with that “special someone”, is it not also completely reasonable to assume that men enjoy sex more than women?
If women enjoy sex as much as men, what possible explanation is there for them not wanting to have it very often?
PS: Readers might also be interested in my other post, What Do Women Find Attractive in a Man?
I think there are a couple of issues embedded in this question.
A. Do women want orgasms as often as men do?
B. Do women want sexual intercourse as often as men do?
C. Do women have more to worry about physically and socially when having sex, and does this lead to them wanting sex with another person less often?
I think the answer to these questions may be different.
I suspect the answer to A is a tentative yes, with some individual variation
B = no. For men, putting their dick in a warm, soft place = good. For women, penetration does not always = good. There’s a lot of individual variation here, but a fair percentage of them can’t get A with B at all. For some, B always leads to a certain amount of pain, or for a small but significant number of women, sexual intercourse very often leads to very painful urinary tract infections that require antibiotics and days to clear. Many women also have issues with yeast infections that make them not want to have sex, and other more mundane cyclical functions that cause them not to want to have sex about 7 days out of every month. And I haven’t even gotten into the things we have to do to prevent pregnancy.
Which leads us to our answer for C.
Fortunately, for most women, sex is good, just not physiologically guaranteed to be AS good as an hour alone with a vibrator and a nice romance novel. That’s just life. I’m not saying that sex can’t be better, it often is, in fact, I think that given multiple orgasms, sex can potentially be better for women than for guys, it’s just not guaranteed to be good at all the way it seems to be for guys.
So, to recap, there’s a lot less impetus to run off to the bathroom with a random guy. Who, also, is probably bigger than you, might force you to do things you don’t want to do, and steal your wallet in the process. And that’s not paranoia, that’s life as a woman.
Women get all kinds of pissed when guys say they have stronger “urges” than women, because this is used to justify rape. No, I do not think that men have stronger “urges” than women, and even if they did, it wouldn’t be any excuse not to keep in their pants. I think women just have more to consider when saying yes to sex.
Anyway, I hope that helps clarify the situation!
“Women get all kinds of pissed when guys say they have stronger “urges” than women”
Not necessarily. I’d wild guess that it’s the case in average. And even if it weren’t, there’s nothing to get pissed about.
“because this is used to justify rape”.
No. Just because you have a urge to do something doesn’t mean you are justified in doing it. Pedophiles feel the urge to have sex with underage kids, it doesn’t justify them if they act out. I frequently feel the urge of knocking my douchey brother-in-law very hard on the head until he dies. Doesn’t mean that I should.
Anyway, I totally agree with the rest of the post. Special mention to the too-much-of-a-good-thing-hurts-like-hell part (from someone prone to UTIs). Which leads me to a question: how come men don’t care whether their female partner enjoys it or not? It happened to me a few times that I initiated sex with a guy who wasn’t in the mood (but proceeded to be nice) and it was atrocious! Not something I’d want to repeat ever. On another hand, men don’t seem to mind at all that their partner is blatantly bored or in obvious physical discomfort. I first thought they were too caught in action to notice, but one of them once confessed he was totally aware of it but couldn’t be bothered to interrupt himself… My mind boggles. But that must be because I’m not a man.
Just so you know where I stand, I think it’s blatantly obvious that men enjoy sex more and have a higher sex drive than women.
First, I want to disambiguate the question: liking sex is not the same thing as liking men. Girls like guys as much as guys like girls. No question. The sheer number of screaming girls at rock concerts confirms this. The ridiculous lengths that girls go to to “get guys” confirms this. Girls WANT guys. However, girls don’t necessarily want guys in order to have sex with them all the time (that’s the reason guys want girls).
It’s because of this that so many girls mistakenly assume their sex drive is on par with men’s. “But I love you just as much,” or, “but I want you just as badly.” Yes, yes, but that’s not the same thing.
Alice, the way I’m reading your post is that you are explaining why women enjoy sex less. I don’t think that’s what you intended, but that’s what I’m getting from it. If you can’t orgasm during sex, then you must enjoy it less. There are all sorts of physical problems, psychological problems, social problems, etc. that sex just isn’t as fun.
I don’t think the urges men have JUSTIFY rape, but I do think they EXPLAIN it. On the other hand, this is true for all crimes. Murderers are only murderers because they couldn’t restrain their violent urges. Heck, I would totally be a murderer if I couldn’t restrain myself.
I’m curious why it’s so politically incorrect to say that men are more sexual than women. It’s generally okay to say things like women like children more, are more emotional, have a higher tolerance for pain, are better with languages, enjoy shopping more, and whatnot. It’s generally okay to say things like men are stronger, more violent, more logical, like guns more, like sports more, and whatnot. Why should it be so hard to believe that one gender, in this case men, is more sexually driven than the other?
Laetitia, you asked why men don’t care if their female partner enjoys it or not. It’s not that we don’t care, it’s that we don’t understand. Think about how hard it is to, I don’t know, open a door. You turn the handle, you open it, you walk through it. Simple, right? That’s how simple sex is for a man. You drop your pants, you stick it in the hole, you thrust in and out. Again, simple. And yet, somehow, for women it’s complicated. Think how strange it would be if you couldn’t just walk through a door and instead you had to give it some foreplay for 20 minutes, tell it how beautiful it is, caress it in just the right way, etc.
That previous paragraph was probably incredibly insulting, and I apologize, I was just trying to answer the question. Most men try very hard to please their partners (at least, I do), it’s just very hard for me to figure it out because it comes so simple and naturally for my gender.
Anyway, back to the original question. Again, the vibe I’m getting is that YES, men enjoy sex more than women. How else could such a sentence ever be written: “but one of them once confessed he was totally aware of it but couldn’t be bothered to interrupt himself… My mind boggles. But that must be because I’m not a man”? If you can’t understand how hard it is to interrupt yourself during “the act” then you must not be feeling what we feel.
I’ve never done heroin, but I would equate sex to heroin (for men). I seriously doubt the heroin addict gives a damn about anybody else around him when he’s in the process of shooting up.
A quick aside: my previous girlfriend told me she never masturbated. Yes, NEVER. Again, the only explanation I can come up with is that she must not enjoy it as much as we men do. The point, though, is that I would ask her, “What do you like? What should I do?” And she would have no idea! I am officially calling out for all women in the world to masturbate! This way, you can explain to us men how to make sex better for you.
By the way, as far as birth control goes, there really isn’t anything more effective than a condom, right? So why do women have to do anything at all?
I would totally love to be able to have multiple orgasms. I kind of feel that since women don’t always have orgasms, it probably evens out in the end that they are able to have multiple ones sometimes.
Just to play devil’s advocate, a CLASSIC thief’s technique is to use a beautiful woman to seduce a man in order to steal all of his stuff. Men always fall for it, too, again because our urge is so strong.
Perhaps it should also be considered that since sex is so readily available to women that it just isn’t that special. As Seinfeld said, for women sex is like taking out the trash. Over time, the need piles up and eventually a strong man in a jumpsuit takes it out for you.
FYI, Laetitia, the next time a guy isn’t in the mood for you I’m pretty sure you will be able to turn the tables if you play it right. Give him a little massage in the right place and I’m sure he’ll be begging you for sex, and then he won’t have to “be nice” and can give it to you good.
Final thoughts: life is “hard” for many people, not just women. It’s hard to be a woman, it’s hard to be black, it’s hard to be disabled, it’s hard to be poor, it’s hard to be old, it’s hard to be young, it’s hard to be Mexican, it’s hard to be gay, and, yes, it’s hard to be a man as well.
Philip, more or less, your point is that as popular wisdom goes, “men give love for sex and women give sex for love”. I find it somewhat true for myself (to a certain extent, because I would never stay in a relationship without sex, even with heaps and heaps of love). Then, I may not be representative. And some think otherwise (“of ten parts a man enjoys one only, but a woman enjoys the full ten parts in her heart.” ).
“That previous paragraph was probably incredibly insulting, and I apologize, I was just trying to answer the question”.
I wouldn’t call it insulting; perhaps you could have carried across the point without comparing your partner to an inanimate object but it efficiently conveys your interpretation. But you make me think about something. I feel that during sex (I’m not talking about the relationship at large, only about intercourse strictly speaking) men tend to perceive their partner as a way to a means. I’d say “as an object” but it would be perceived as a provocation. As an … incredibly perfected, moving, wonderfully textured inflatable doll, say. While women might have more a perception of the intercourse as an interpersonal thing. But I may well be wrong. And incredibly insulting.
“If you can’t understand how hard it is to interrupt yourself during “the act” then you must not be feeling what we feel”.
Well, yes I most definitely don’t feel what he feels, that’s the point. What I find difficult to understand is why the realization that he’s (at worst) hurting his partner doesn’t lessen the urge. Again it’s probably just because I’m a chick, but it I could clearly see that I’m hurting my partner, it would definitely affect my level of arousal very quickly.
“By the way, as far as birth control goes, there really isn’t anything more effective than a condom, right? So why do women have to do anything at all?”
I’m not sure I understand this part, nor its logical link with what’s before or after. Anyway:
Condom failure rate: 21% for a typical use and 5% for a perfect use
Contraceptive pill failure rate: 8% for a typical use, 0.3% for a perfect use
UID, failure rate about 1%
Then if the rest fails, there’s emergency contraception, and it’s again up to the girl.
Plus, even when a condom is used, it’s always safer for the woman to have one with her and eventually bring up the subject, because it’s not guaranteed that the man will. Trust me.
“FYI, Laetitia, the next time a guy isn’t in the mood for you I’m pretty sure you will be able to turn the tables if you play it right. Give him a little massage in the right place and I’m sure he’ll be begging you for sex, and then he won’t have to “be nice” and can give it to you good.”
I wouldn’t be as sure as you are that my technique is too blame. Obviously, when a man isn’t in the mood and I am, I don’t just lie here and wait for it to happen — I do whatever it takes. But it happened a few times that despite my efforts I clearly couldn’t bring the guy to forget about what was on his mind, whatever it was, and from my point of view it very much affected the quality of the intercourse. I don’t think I am to blame for that, not any more that my partner is to blame if I don’t necessarily enjoy sex tremendously each and every time.
… obviously, I meant “a means to an end”. Sorry, as you can see English isn’t my first language.
Being a queer guy, I’d like to provide some insight that might be different from what heterosexual people have to say on this (if there’s something I know, it’s men – believe me on that one). It’s way easier to get a man in bed than a woman, even heterosexual men – many men just NEED sex. I think that most of Alice’s points are very valid – sex is more challenging to deal with when you’re a (heterosexual) woman, but this is not necessarily related to how strong sexual urges are. This being said lesbians seem to have much less qualms about getting in bed with other women than many women have with going to bed with men.
About guys, people experience desire differently, and I don’t want to make sweeping generalizations. But for many men, having someone treat your dick like it’s the most gorgeous thing they’ve ever come across will just send a guy to heaven. And the opposite is true: being a man and not having the sex you need leaves you vulnerable and miserable. Yet I’m not necessarily talking about quantity there – the kind of sex you have is important too. You can get laid every day and feel sexually frustrated. Sexual frustration for men is often dismissed as funny or with a “oh, men…” shrug and sigh. But understand how much it can hurt for a guy to not get the sex he needs, and you’ll understand a lot more about the way men behave. Sadly, some men will cross ethical lines and they will lie, manipulate, or outright coerce to get some action – this kind of behavior is unacceptable. The rest of us, however, sometimes end up feeling like crap for not getting the sex we need, despite being honest, fair-looking good people.
*puts on criminology student hat* For rape, something that’s frequently misunderstood is that it’s a crime that involves a sexual act, but that is rarely sexually motivated. It’s a crime that’s motivated by power and control in most cases – the rapist wants to make the victim feel utterly powerless, want to have total control over the victim. Rape is rarely motivated by sexual urges alone (in fact, in many cases, it has nothing to do with the crime). Non-violent sexual abuse (usually towards children) is a different matter, though – people who commit those crimes often experience strong feelings of love or lust towards the victim, and the crime is rarely motivated by control or power. *takes off criminology student hat*
Finally, I really hate it when someone reduces male desire to wanting to stick your dick in someone’s body opening. Sadly, I think that a lot of men don’t know that sex can be much better than just doing that, but we live in a society that’s so obsessed with penetration that all the other aspects of sex are eclipsed. I also know straight guys who aren’t that much into penetrating their partner (although it’s perfectly fine for people to enjoy penetration too, and many of them do). Personally (sorry if I’m over-disclosing), I find the following things to be much more of a turn on than physical feelings on my dick (although a great blowjob is a great blowjob):
- feelings of power from knowing I can drive my partner crazy with pleasure;
- that hungry look from my partner, or a copious amount of genuine moaning;
- somebody playing right with my erogenous zones (learn how to play with my back, and you’ll do whatever you want with me);
- playing around with power, games of domination and submission.
Even though I love penetrating someone, the physical feelings that come with it are not as intense as in a good handjob or blowjob – during penetration, I get off a lot more from knowing I can drive my partner nuts with my cock than from the actual physical sensation. I also never found that there was much of a difference in physical sensations between wearing a condom or not, but other guys might feel otherwise. But since the psychological aspect is so important to me, I guess it’s much less of a factor for me.
This is a good conversation, I hope we can keep it going! ^_^
Alice S. says: “Women get all kinds of pissed when guys say they have stronger ‘urges’ than women, because this is used to justify rape.”
Then women have all kinds of serious problems, do they not?
Certainly, some guy, somewhere, at some time might have justified rape with such inanity, just as people have justified everything they do with absurd excuses that don’t merit repeating. The fact that this purported excuse IS repeated, here and in other dark corners of the Internet despite the fact that in the modern world virtually NO rapist justifies his crime with this remark, is a manifestation of a culture in the serious grip of irrational misrandric fear-mongering. That’s right. Chicken Littles running about warning “Men can’t be trusted!” “Men can’t be trusted!”
It’s a canard; a red herring; a feminist urban myth; a straw person constructed to perpetuate the stereotype that all men are at least rapists-in-waiting.
Do men cite their sexual urges to encourage, plead for, and cajole women to have sex — leaving the decision as to whether to consent to the woman’s free agency? Of course. And that is not rape by any standard.
So, with all due respect — because I know this goes against their rape-culture metanarrative, and I am sorry to muddy up a perfectly good victim fetish — but if women get “all kinds of pissed” when men discuss their sexual urges, that’s because they have bought into “all kinds of” misandric irrationality.
If you asked ten people on the street which gender in general has greater sexual urges, nine out of ten would readily answer “men.” They would not need to parse the question into categories using sociological mumbo jumbo. It is common sense. Virtually everyone from the beginning of time until now would tell you the same thing, because it’s obvious — not worth discussing. Women might enjoy intimacy, or cuddling, or hand-holding, or foreplay or any number of other things more than men — but men enjoy intercourse and masturbation more than women. There is no serious, plausible argument to the contrary.
To transmogrify this fundamental question about which there can be no legitimate dispute into an occasion to bash men by talking about women’s supposed legitimate fear of rape is nothing short of misandry.
the answer is very difficult. we need a complete hermaphrodite whose sexual organs are functioning completely to tell us which of the sexes they enjoy most. let us search for this type of hermaphrodite to tell us the answer
To resurrect a now more than month old post with some clarifications:
“Women get all kinds of pissed when guys say they have stronger ‘urges’ than women, because this is used to justify rape.”
Some guys do use this as a justification. They “just couldn’t help themselves even though she said no”. It’s ugly.
Women are also pretty goddamn tired of hearing that they ALWAYS have to be the one to put the brakes on because they get less turned on, and it’s therefore their responsibility. I suspect it may also be something of a self-fulfilling prophecy, where women TRY to get less turned on because they believe they have to be the one in control of the situation.
I think that women often do, in fact, enjoy p in v intercourse less than men. There, I said it. That doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy ALL sexual activity less than men. Sex is a broad topic that covers a range of acts, including oral, mutual masturbation, etc. There’s also a HUGE difference between the sexual activity and desire of different women. (As a side note, Phil, condoms are significantly less effective than using the pill + condoms, using just a condom always made me nervous)
There are women out there who don’t masturbate. Yes. And then there’s ones who do several times a day. Mostly, we don’t talk about it nearly as much as guys do. I would agree that it’s something women should try at least a couple times (a week, really) so they know what they like.
Just because some women are cool not having sex more than once in a while doesn’t mean all are, or always have been. Yes, there have been times where not getting laid was really, really unpleasant (sidenote: women do not care about your blueballs, complaining about how much your reproductive organs hurt sometimes just isn’t going to get you much sympathy with women who have ever had cramps for *days* at a time, or better yet, given birth).
In conclusion: women do not like p in v intercourse as much as men. This does not mean we do not like ALL sexual acts as much as men. There’s also a lot of variation between women and how much they like sex and how often they want it. But, this does not mean that we can magically get turned on and have sex when you want/need it. It’s the sort of thing that’s been complained about since the beginning of time, and will probably continue to be a source of conflict between the sexes.
Let’s ‘bottom line’ this discussion (pun intended) so folks can get past this feminist mythology once and for all!
To that end, (no pun intended that time) there are two salient points to understand:
1. testosterone is THE hormone that drives sexual desire for BOTH men and women.
2. males have, according to medical research, anywhere from 10 – 20 times the amount of testosterone than females have throughout their lives.
So, have we figured it out yet? No? Let me help you then….
Anecdotal evidence by female body builders who take male growth hormone or similar substances to enhance their physique have repeatedly commented that they could deal with certain unwanted side effects such as increased facial or chest hair, enlarged clitoris, or even a greater sense of psychological aggression, but what they found particularly difficult to deal with was the HUGE increase in sexual desire. These women discovered that while using MGH or certain steroids they could not stop thinking about having sex and that they found that state of mental and physical being extremely annoying.
So, need we say more? Men and women are different physiologically and hormonally, all of which effects our development, physically and emotionally, throughout our lives in equally complex ways.
Bottom line: MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT! DUH!
Well said, Susan.
I often speculate that a great turning point in human history will be when we discover how to “share feelings” with each other, perhaps through some technology that can scan our brain. I know I’m in the realm of science fiction here, but imagine what things would change if we could actually feel what other people were feeling, rather than having to express it in words.
Instead of going to the doctor and saying, “it hurts in this vague area,” the doctor could just plug in and instantly know what’s wrong with you. Perhaps people could finally understand why gays care about getting married. One group of religious people could finally understand another. School would probably be totally different.
And, yes, men and women could finally understand each other. It would be great if women could understand the level of arousal that we men have to deal with, and I’m sure women would love it if men could understand these “emotions” that I keep hearing about.
Anyway, perhaps one day…
By the way, although I bet some people will disagree with me, I believe that because men are turned on all the time we are much better at dealing with it than women. Women often don’t see it, but for example, when a hot woman is standing on a street corner waiting to cross the street, all the men within two blocks of her are restraining themselves from jumping on her. It’s just second nature to us to restrain ourselves. In fact, it’s very easy for us (unless, you know, the girl is on top of us or totally drunk or something). On the other hand, when a woman gets really turned on, because it happens so much less often, she doesn’t know what to do and can’t restrain herself. I’ve seen women go CRAZY over a man. Have you ever tried saying no to a girl who’s that turned on? It’s impossible. And, I think, it simply because they are less prepared for those feelings. Anyway, just an interesting observation of mine. I suspect this could be why women think they have just as strong urges as men do.
I would tend to agree that men and women are different when it comes to sex.
Just to muddy the water a bit though
Interesting NYtimes article:
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01.....1&_r=1
All was different with the women. No matter what their self-proclaimed sexual orientation, they showed, on the whole, strong and swift genital arousal when the screen offered men with men, women with women and women with men. They responded objectively much more to the exercising woman than to the strolling man, and their blood flow rose quickly — and markedly, though to a lesser degree than during all the human scenes except the footage of the ambling, strapping man — as they watched the apes. And with the women, especially the straight women, mind and genitals seemed scarcely to belong to the same person.
Physiologically, women appear to be turned on by basically EVERYTHING remotely sexual. They just aren’t mentally turned on. The article later details how women seem to like fantasies involving some type of loss of control or quasi-violent action. I have a simpler explanation than the author. It’s a well established fact in psychology that people can mentally translate adrenaline responses (increased heart rate etc.) as sexual arousal regardless of the original cause (fear, exercise, a literal injection of adrenaline). I suspect women just like the extra kick-start to the system. And maybe, since most women seem to not get much genital feedback, they rely more on the adrenaline feedback.
i think men only think about themselves during the act! for as long as he feels good, that’s all they care about. now that is gross…………duh you are not fucking a log! what does it hurt you to feel and appreciate her?
men get over yourselves. you just can not have a good fuck with out us so recognise us in bed and care about how we feel and you can make us feel real good.
Be it as it may with the question of which sex has the stronger sexual urges. I tend to believe it’s rather individual.
I do however object to the notion that men take their pleasure without a care for the woman involved, rather the opposite is true namely that men tend to forget their own pleasure in the effort to pleasure the partner.
Women more often take their own enjoyment for granted and make no effort for their lover except to aquisce to the love making, which is great but not necessarily enough.
hmm, what I think in my own opinion is..
SOME MEN know more than others to appreciate
how a woman might feel during sex.. .. SO,
WE “the women” should not generaliz aLL men.
and.. it just happens to be individual.. just
depends on that woman and man’s relationship
in understanding eachother and talkin things out.
and seriously, if you feel hurt during sex you should
just let your partner know. if he is a Good man enough,
he’ll listen to you, and WANT, to know how he can pleasure
you more.
and Men… hmm
all i have to say is.. for those you only cares about how
his, penis feels.. “When you find the right woman” you’ll
want to know how to make her feel just as good as you are
feelin..
so.. try to start learning right now.
PS: Readers might also be interested in my other post, What Do Women Find Attractive in a Man?
incorrect. both women and men enjoy sex immensely, and neither gender likes it more. the problem here is how you define sex. the way you’ve all been talking, “sex” means penis plus vagina, and that’s it. well OF COURSE you think women don’t like it as much! what’s to like? there’s no mention of the clitoris! the way i define sex, yes there is penis + vagina, but it also involves a lot of licking and rubbing of the CLITORIS. i am a woman, and i love sex more than most men. that is because sex, to me, means proper stimulation of my clitoris. and it is other-worldly. my boyfriend is literally amazed by the noises i make, the faces i make, the parts of me that spasm and shake, all because he has his fingers and/or tongue on the exact spot where female pleasure is centralized. the clitoris. female pleasure does not come from the vagina, it just doesnt. once we stop defining sex from male standards, you will all see the truth that we’re at the very least equal in terms of our sex drives, but in my opinion, women are capable of much more intense, lasting, and repetitive pleasure. so it only makes sense that we want it more. “it” just includes clitoral stimulation, which, unsurprisingly, was not mentioned even once in the aforementioned description of “sex”. your vanilla description of “sex” is only for reproduction. and women dont want to reproduce with one night stands. which is why we dont like having them. we want orgasms. and those dont come from the male-defined “sex”. they come from LICKING AND RUBBING OF THE AMAZING ORGAN KNOWN AS THE CLITORIS. how hard is it to understand?
thank you, pierce harlan, for proving my point:
“Virtually everyone from the beginning of time until now would tell you the same thing, because it’s obvious — not worth discussing. Women might enjoy intimacy, or cuddling, or hand-holding, or foreplay or any number of other things more than men — but men enjoy intercourse and masturbation more than women. There is no serious, plausible argument to the contrary.”
i assume by foreplay you mean clitoral stimulation. foreplay. hah! as if its not “real” sex. yet another sad example of sex being defined by male standards. women deny masturbation for a lot of reasons, but i assure you, we all do it. and none of it involves our vagina. that shouldnt be a blow to the male ego, but for some particularly insecure men, it is.
the problem here is that youre saying that “intercourse” is “sex”, but “foreplay” isnt. that is sad and something that you will never change. but perhaps an enlightened woman will come along someday and help you with your problem. until then…..
i forgot to include my serious and plausible argument to the contrary:
that a womans sex organ (her clitoris) has MORE nerve endings than a man’s penis, therefore produces more pleasure. and believe me, women who are lucky enough to have not been ruined by male-standardized sex, get much more pleasure out of it than men. physical pleasure. toe curling pleasure. not “cuddling”, not “hand holding”. orgasming. hard. and many, many times over.
Your theory is interesting, Emily, but unfortunately it doesn’t hold up. The way the scientific method works is that you come up with a theory and then test it through experimentation and by observing the results. Your theory simply does not explain what we observe in the real world, and it does not answer my original question: If women enjoy sex, what possible explanation is there for them not wanting it?
First of all, NOBODY is defining sex to mean penis and vagina. I am defining sex in the most broad way possible: anything remotely sexual. From kissing, to making out, to dry humping, to 69, to masturbation, to anal, to hand jobs, to going down, to actual sex. No matter how you define it, guys want sex WAY more than women. And, believe me, guys are up for whatever kind of sex women are up for. Also, contrary to your assertion, lots of women do not masturbate, and the ones that do probably don’t do it every single day like men.
A woman’s clitoris might have more nerve endings than a man’s penis, and that might sound like a persuasive argument that women should enjoy sex even more, but again, REALITY seems to point otherwise. Reality always trumps theory.
So, I ask you, how do you explain the reality of the situation? According to you, I can think of two possibilities:
1. Women really love sex, they just don’t know it yet because they’ve never had “good” sex. This is what men love to think, that I could please her so much better than all of her previous lovers, if only she would give me the chance.
2. Women really love sex… they just don’t want it. This was my original question, and you have not answered it.
I do not find either of those two possibilities particularly compelling. Are you saying that 99% of women have just never had good sex? That seems unlikely. Virgin men are desperate for sex even though they’ve never experienced it before, so why aren’t women? Are you saying that women just don’t like things that give them pleasure? That seems very strange.
Here’s the rub: everywhere in the world there are men begging for sex, watching porn, paying for prostitutes, masturbating, looking up skirts, and trying to lie, cheat, threaten, coerce, etc. their way into a woman’s pants, trying to get women drunk, date raping them, pleading with women to touch their dicks, and offering to set up air conditioners in exchange for a blow job on Craigslist. I don’t see women doing these things. Why are there no women desperately trying to get men to rub their clitoris?
Are you REALLY going to tell me that women and men like sex equally? If so, you have to EXPLAIN what we observe in the real world. In my opinion, the best explanation is simply that women don’t like sex as much. It’s very simple (Occam’s Razor) and explains everything.
Listen, I’m not saying your argument doesn’t make sense, it really really does, and believe me, every man has thought at some point like you do, that if a woman could just experience GOOD sex, she would come over to his side, but it just isn’t the way the world works. Yes, there are some awesome women like you who enjoy sex a lot, perhaps 1% of women, but what about the other 99%?
Women don’t go to those extremes just to get pleasure because they’re not stupid. (cheating, lying, etc.) It doesn’t mean they don’t love sex as much as men do. Women probably don’t want sex as much as men(penis + vagina) because men don’t know how to pleasure women. Emily is right: the way to please a woman is through the CLITORIS!
OF COURSE MEN WANT SEX MORE THAN WOMEN. How many women rape men? How many strip clubs feature men? How many females go to male prostitutes? How many women would brag about “getting lucky” because they got laid? How many women take men out and buy them gifts hoping to get them to have sex? Only women would say their desire for sex is as strong as men’s , but then again women lie about everything!
I tend to believe that women enjoy sex, moreso after they’ve been dined & wined, they’re ready to be supined. Much easier to “please” a woman by opening up our wallets. Buying them gifts. That’s called “pre-foreplay.” WHY do WE, men, have to pay for “it”? Like they don’t enjoy it, or it’s a sacrifice? Or, why do we pay for it? We pay for it in the streets, on dates or in marriage. WE pay for it. We even pay for it when we’re not getting it, like after divorce. We should change current laws; at present they’re too one-sided in favor of the poor, defenseless women that victimize us emotionally & financially; at the work place, they want “equal pay” but won’t perform equal work (“Oh, I don’t want to get my hands dirty,” or “Oh, I may break a fingernail…” AND “Oh, that’s a ‘man’s job’”). Why do women always want to “be in charge” even though they don’t know squat? One guy said that women are slightly over 50% of the world population but they own 100% of the pussy; another sage said, “Women want to be in charge because they own the pussy.” Women are so lazy that they opt to take “bottom” and let us do all the work. It’s sure difficult to live w/out them… they OWN it!
speaking in general (cause there are always exceptions)…
if a womans partner, or partners, are doing it right, then that woman can, and will, enjoy sex as much as any man. or possibly even more so. the reason many women do not enjoy sex as much as men is because they either dont communicate to their partner what they need to enjoy it, or their partners arent listening.
Are you stupid? If men didn’t enjoy sex more than women then they wouldn’t be talking the whole day about it. Everybody knows that men are addicted to it… women mostly don’t want it. What a stupid question.
If a woman (it wouldn’t metter how she looks like) asks a man for sex he would instantanely say YES, women wouldn’t even (exept sometimes) sleep instantanely with a man who wants sex.
I can only go by what I have experienced and observed…
Amazingly women complain about all the suffering they have because of sex, but still do it (Just to please men? – that’s dumb)- Must be the same ones who don’t tell their men how to improve…
I never bought into the Idea that men wanted Sex more than Women do – in general Women Do Want Sex More than Men do…
(I was fortunate enough to live in a place where women out numbered men 4:1 and out numbered straight men 6:1)
Of course it depends on the individuals.
(Biblical 01:03:16 “…and thy desire shall be to thy husband” – C’mon what do you think that means?)
Men are able (socially acceptable) to admit having a high sex drive. Unfortunately, most men are terrible Lovers – they don’t communicate well and they don’t listen most of the time.
A lot of women haven’t had a lot of experience (20+% have never had an “O”) a suprising number will only admit to having 3 or 4 men – and not knowing good from bad – they figure that’s they way its supposed to be. Yes wine & dine do add some to the “Romance”… If you’re not getting off give a few pointers… The ones that really like sex don’t usually admit it out side of the bedroom, its just not lady like – these women get all kinds of nasty names assigned to them – unlike their male counterparts – so they play it way down. Adding to this problem is the BS Idea that women think that the only thing men want is sex – and therefore their anatomy is the only bargaining chip they have – I like a conversation – myself…
In my mid 20′s I got involved with a few Cougars,(More than one told me that she liked sex more than I did and proved herself right about it) I thank them to this day – for not only teaching me what I already thought I knew, but for sharing with me things that have changed my life –
For all those who maintain that Rape is committed by Men Only; Go wave that flag some place else…
Although it’s considered rare (except maybe in the fantasy uttering on the penthouse forum) I have been Raped 3 times – By Women – yes different women and more than one on 2 occasions. I ain’t complaining and I don’t consider myself a victim – (Kinda flattered though – I’m not that good looking) though hitting me with a putter wasn’t called for – Really – Just ask next time… – I could have done without the stitches.
For me its simple…
If she’s not into sex – let someone else have her, maybe she’ll find someone who will float her boat, but she’s not being fair to me (or herself) if she stays.
For those who say women Own all the Pussy, maybe the problem isn’t with the plumbing – its the fact that you got a rotten one (maybe your tuned into the wrong women) – try a different type – what have ya got to loose? (sounds like machismo soldier complex when some Testosterone overdosed redneck meets resistance he doesn’t know how to conquer).
Pay for it? ROFLMAO
No man, you can’t win THAT game, That’s their game (like the rigged stuff at a carnival). Best case scenario is you lose a bunch of money and give up – worse case is marriage with kids and a divorce. (Does any of that sound Good?). Its for amateurs and suckers. No wonder why your loosing the game – Ya got the game wrong, Change the game – change the rules, change the players – until you win.
(You’ll get it now that you know better…)
Now the part I came to say before getting side tracked.
I’m convinced that Women Enjoy it more – They ask me out more than 80% of the time…
(not particularly good looking – about average – Nice smile, good since of humor)
LOL
Stick your finger in your ear, swish it about and pull it out.
What feels better your ear or your finger?
Here’s a good quote from my former gay roommate, “It’s true that we gay men are promiscuous, but it’s not because we are gay, it’s because we are men.”
whoa it’s really obvious that men love sex more than women, when I was like 17, I thought women didn’t want or like sex at all, I tried making two girls have sex with me, when I was 15 but it didn’t work so for the next few years I said I will never try again and i didn’t. I started looking at women like they were just men, but I wasn’t gay. I didn’t even feel anything when I was near a woman again all i liked to do was to talk with them, until the day one girl who I had been hanging out with asked me if I was gay, and I said hell no then she said how come we have been talking alone together for like 6 months virtually everyday or at least three times a week and you haven’t made a pass at me n then I told her wow you didn’t tell me or show me that you wanted and she said you are a weirdo and that virtually all the boys she has met have tried to have sex with her, an I was like wow, I didn’t think you women wanted sex except you are in a relationship with the guy or you just want kids, then she replied saying you don’t know anything about us then and she kissed me and then I had sex for the first time when I was 18 and we did it over and over again so what I believe now is that women have sexual drives but not just as often as men do and when they want sex, they know how to get it unlike a lot of men plus men can be tuned in by women even when they are not in the mood but if a woman isn’t in the mood there’s little the guy can do.
I am a rarity, a woman that quite frankly loves sex and I have absolutely no problem initiating sex with my partner. I just do not associate love automatically with sex. They are two different things. Often, I have found that the men that I am dating love that I do not wait to ask for it and pretty much everyday I flirt with them or let them know how desirable I find them. Hells, I have even in a fairly non demanding way let them know when I needed more than what I am getting. Honestly, the men I have dated appreciate that I tell them whenever I want sex and desire them. The problem is often that it’s timing. Usually he is busy or I am busy and their is not enough time and I am not a quickie type of girl usually lol. I just simply enjoy sex and I like falling in love and it takes me awhile to actually fall in love with someone. Sex and love are different to me and I have been told I act like a man with my own sexuality and the ironic thing is that often the men I am dating seem to become more attached because I am this way. I have always found this to be interesting.
I became board with reading all of your answers so I am sorry if somebody before me has already pointed out the blatantly obvious.
While it is great to be able to talk about philosophical issues such as these and to edify those with what you, as a layperson (anyone here hold a medical degree?) disseminate to be the truth; and with the up most axiomatic candor I’m sure! To put it bluntly, none of you can give an educated, knowledgeable answer on this question. If I may analogise this quandary, it would be to the nature/nurture, or person/situation debate. Sure if you bought two people to a, psychologist/psychiatrist/physiologist they will be able to give you a veritable answer if one is more prone to sex based on environmental, situational, physiological factors.
The answers on this topic (from what I have scanned) seem to be introspective and of such repudiated sycophant nature. Topics such as sexual desire of the human are so tangible that it would be churlish to make inferences and generalise to a larger population. All you will learn here is perspectives riddled with arbitrary prejudice, and fastidious people with ubiquitous answers.
Well! Sam is the first one to come up with a definite answer! Sorry I am opening up this discussion again, but I read all comments and let me say that while some are ridiculous and others make sense Sam is right. There is just no way women are more prone to higher sexual drive than men or vice versa, the only factor involved is whether you have the higher sexual drive based on physiology, situation, and environment.
I for one have never had sex before, and while I do sometimes want sex, there’s long periods of time when I could care less about meeting a woman to date and possibly break my streak of non-sexual activity. Yes, sure, everyone talks about sex but people, not everyone wants it as much as others.
I have no comment just wanted to correct
the glans of the penis has ~ 4000 nerve endings, the clittoris has 8000 but the male foreskin can have up to 20 000 … fact, dont take my word… reasearch it
Back to put forward my POV,
1.) Testosterone is the hormone controlling libido and as mentioned earlier men have much more of it, in fact if a woman had half as much as a man she would either go crazy or attempt to rape someone, its not saying women have weaker constitutions, it’s just saying they simply aren’t use to what men feel on a daily basis and the vast majority of us can keep under control, this does not justify rape therefore as if 99% of men can control themselves there’s no reason 1% should be able to use a higher sex drive as an excuse
2.) Women rape happens, and probably more than you think, ever tried disarming an aroused woman? The thing about it is that men don’t complain, I mean, unless your in a loving relationship then why would you want to? You get yours kicks with someone knew and there are still no consequences on the male side, almost all cases of rape on men go unreported but that’s not saying it doesn’t happen
3.) I can’t believe that people are measuring enjoyment in terms of pleasure, the title says “Do Men ENJOY Sex More Than Women”, even if your not the one who’s being blown away at the time watching someone you (and this is the important bit) deeply CARE ABOUT and LOVE, writhing in ecstasy, overcome with so much pleasure they can barely control their movements, how can that not be classed as enjoyment? And this counts for women also, I assume that women enjoy pleasuring a man they love, the look on their face…
4.) Intercourse was designed with one objective, for the man to ejaculate and fertilise a woman, but it needs a way to regulate that so that you don’t pull the trigger the second you get excited, women on the other hand don’t enjoy penetration nearly as much but enjoy other forms (linking to what someone said earlier about different forms different pleasures, it depends how far you’ll go to please your partner… saying that men don’t care is insulting, women (despite being lavished with the praise they are more emotionally mature and better at communication) simply cannot tell a man what she wants, I dunno if its embarrassment or what but if you communicate then your partner will adapt to suite you, if you do nothing and FAKE IT, he’ll think your enjoying it
Finally, to answer the original question “Do Men Enjoy Sex More Than Women” then I have to say that this question is impossible to answer, there are so many people in the world , as we have said before 20% (That’s 1 in 5 women) have never orgasmed, this may be because their lover can’t satisfy them, that they think that that is what sex feels like or in many cases they generally find it nigh on impossible, its the same for men, the feeling ranges from little puffle or feeling to madness inducing ecstasy that can unhinge your thinking and make you feel your out of this world, it just depends of the person, you can’t even say on average either because it doesn’t matter what the average is, each person can only experience their own life and therefore themselves, so average means squat to the man who struggles to get an erection or the woman who no matter how hard their partner tries, can’t orgasm…
So to end, this question is redundant, the things that have stemmed of it are good though because it allows men and women to communicate how they want it and what’s troubling them, just be careful it doesn’t get turned into a battle of the sexes because then it is a totally pointless exercise, if we can all learn something maybe we can be more pleasing between the sheets in the future! eh?
I believe women’s libidos are just as high if not higher then men’s libidos. The difference is more women then men are not satisfied (satisfied being climaxing) so after awhile women stop wanting sex because of being routinely disappointed. Women who regularly have an orgasm are more likely to want sex then women who don’t. Also, women, as a whole, are better able to control sexual urges. This means that even though a woman may want sex as often as a man she is less likely to act impulsively on it. I attribute this mostly to society’s double standard that it’s bad for women to have sex and men are encouraged to sleep with as many women as possible. Due to societal expectations women are less likely to give in to impulses because they are more likely to suffer negative consequences.
so your contribution is women have a higher libido? I’m sorry but this thread has already agreed the opposite. It’s nothing to do with control. It’s hormonal, like why a lot of women act like bitches for part of the month or are you saying men control their emotions and women can’t?
well a women has more nerve endings on the clit (which is really small) then a man does on his entire penis. Also, women can have multiple orgasms and also can orgasm 3 different ways. As a women i can say that i have a lot of sexual urges. I just control them. I think society has taught girls to be more restricted about sex. while men (some of course not all) feel it to just be something humans do. This i believe is also because of society. They are not taught to be so restrained with it. I read an article that stated as women and men are reaching equality and double standards are decreasing, men are shown to be more likely to be restrained and want an emotional connection, not just a thing humans do. While more women are viewing it as something people just do. Basically, we are reaching an equilibrium. Eventually the gap will close and it will truly depend on the person, not gender. Hormonally we all want to have sex to pass on our DNA. But this is also depending on the person. Honestly women are the same as men. My friends and i talk about sex. We want it, we enjoy it.
There is also the theory that a woman’s orgasm has to do with natural selection. Also, women have to enjoy sex like men, otherwise we wouldn’t want it, therefore never have it, and the human race would cease to exist.
I’m kind of all over the place here, huh.
I really hate generalizing…and sexism against a man or a woman. Just screw everyone else and their urges and listen to your own body. Seriously different men and women have different urges.
And rape is NEVER justified. period. And it seems to be about dominance anyway, not actual sex.
wow. I just read some other people’s comments and their are some douche bags here….women are lazy? My mom works 2 jobs and is a single mother. That’s because my dad died, but she did this before he died. They both worked hard. She went to college, got a masters sumo cum-lade. statistically, more women attend college than men. Besides, women weren’t alowed to work or it was looked down upon back in the day. Times are changing. when the teen generation get control, things are going to be very differt. Hopefully equal.
And i don’t want to be in control, I want to be treated respectfully and equally.
As for the whole money thing. Wouldn’t this go back to the idea that the women wants to feel loved and not just some sexual object? If you take her out to dinner it doesn’t feel like you just want her in bed and don’t give a damn about who she is past her looks.
As for looking at it scientifically, you can say testosterone this and that, but I’m a lot like my brother. Get to know someone before you say, “oh well they’re a man so they must be like this.”…that’s just stupid.
and this thread is not about men versus women, but some things I had to address.
I repeat again, the foreskin has 20 000 nerve endings and the clit has 8000 … correct facts please
Sam hits the nail on the head, with regard to the overall discussion.
Joe – Yes… the foreskin of the penis contains about 20,000 nerve endings of its own… But I always thought that what mattered more was the DENSITY of the nerve endings within a specific area, and not just the AMOUNT of nerve endings. The glans of the clitoris may have less nerve endings overall than the glans of the penis and the foreskin combined, but that doesn’t mean that it’s less sensitive overall. I mean, the glans of the clitoris is still pretty tiny in comparison to its male counterpart, and to have that many nerve endings within such a tiny area… you get the point.
On a side note, the nerve endings in the foreskin are not the same as those found in the glans, but they still contribute significantly to sexual pleasure. It’s just that the nerve endings in the glans are a great deal more responsible for orgasms than the nerve endings in the foreskin.
Also, there’s a lot more to sex drive than one’s testosterone levels. People should know that by now…
Breaking news from 2500 B.C. – Women lie about not liking sex!
Women like sex more than men but they lie to keep men working for them. Also because they do not want to be known as sluts. They insult and attack other women and call them sluts to deflect any attention from their own sluttiness.
Emily and Carl are spot on, my own experience (though it took a long time to seek it out and connect the dots!) has confirmed this, over, and over, and over and well, you get the idea.
While myth, it clearly shows the wisdom of the ancient Greeks. Consider Tiresias, a shapeshifter:
“…he was asked by Zeus which of the two sexes enjoys sex more. Tiresias, speaking from experience, replied that it is woman, and Hera blinded him for telling her husband of the greatest secret of women.”
The story goes that women enjoy sex 10 times more than men. Makes sense when you consider the point Emily makes about more nerve endings and multiple orgasms.
Sad that women think so lowly of men that all we want is a hole to pound. I say it’s women that just want to be nailed. Men actually want friendship, partnership, conversation, etc.
Ask yourself this: if one of the genders went on strike and refused to have sex until their demands were met, which gender do you think would be more worried? If the men went on strike, the women would happily bide their time for years until the men finally came crawling back begging on all fours. Check that, I don’t think it’s even POSSIBLE for men to go on a sex-strike.
If women went on strike, the men would go to war against them and you would probably see what you see nowadays in many countries where women are oppressed: women have no rights and it’s illegal for them not to acquiesce to their husbands’ advances.
How many women have withheld sex as a means of control, whether to get a free dinner, jewelry, or just to get her man to take out the trash? All of them. How many men have withheld sex as a means of control? None. Withholding sex doesn’t work against women.
There’s no room for debate anymore, the jury is in: men do indeed enjoy sex more than women.
I have the final argument that settles this.
Gays vs. Lesbians.
Gays have something like 5 times more sex than lesbians, and 30 times more partners. I don’t remember the exact numbers, but its something equally mind blowing like that.
The greatest part about gays and lesbians is that they settle this debate forever. Unlike with hetero-people, all the typical feminist-bs falls apart, because none of those other rationalizations can be used here…
Its simple, none of the other factors apply to them, and yet, the men have so much more sex and in so many more different ways than the women. And I’m talking mind-bogglingly more.
–> When men are taken out of the equation (lesbians) sex drops down.
–> When women are taken out of the equation (gays) sex shoots up drastically.
‘Nuff said.
Hi everyone,hi Philip, want to leave my opinion here..couldnt resist. Yes i posses a vagina so i expect people will think my opinion is less valid than an alrady proven point that men ejoy sex more.
I have a few points to discuss:
A) a question to some of the commenters, why is it that when a topic of men/women comes up there are ALWAYS guys leaving comments like:
“all women lie!” ( actually from above)
all women are sluts who only want your money!
“at the work place, they want “equal pay” but won’t perform equal work (”Oh, I don’t want to get my hands dirty,” or “Oh, I may break a fingernail…” AND “Oh, that’s a ‘man’s job’”). Why do women always want to “be in charge” even though they don’t know squat?” ( actually from above)
I am sincerely curious, is there that much pent up resentment towards women because they are demanding equal rights? not giving you enough sex? what is the reason? i need to know because comments like these make me want to be a lesbian.
We werent discussing work/pay/lying etc…so why bring up these things?
B) “women’s supposed legitimate fear of rape is nothing short of misandry” Okay. now this is just dumb. Are you a woman? NO?? then dont talk about what I fear becaue you dont know.
It’s like me saying – men’s supposed legidimate fear or being hit in the groin is nothing short of mysoginy. Pure idiocy.
No one ( execpt for some unhinged crazies) is saying all men rape. It’s obviously not true. But since rapes happen ( http://www.amnesty.ca/campaigns/svaw_overview.php – something like 1 in every 3 women in the world is raped and dont say it’s a lie because 3 of my 7 friends were raped by “good” guys that live normal white-collar lives, so that doesnt seem all that far fetched to me) Please do not diminish my fear of walking alone or being a girl in a group of men i dont know very well – you dont know what its like not to have physical control over your body. So shut it. I feel what i feel because rape happens.
C)Okay now to the main point. I LOVE SEX!! i think about it the time and penetration is what gets me off. and to some dude who said women dont talk about it all the time or dont say they “got lucky”….yes that’s right, they dont talk like that around men – but hell all the females i know talk about sex all the time and yes we do say “I GOT LUCKY LAST NIGHT!”
If i didnt enjoy sex as much as men then how come I wear all my boyfriends out AND I am the one always begging for it?? How come i mastrubate every single day??
FINALLY,
It’s true – testosterone is what drives libido and men have more of it. So in my opinion, YES men ( on average) have higher drives. Which is DIFFERENT to actual enjoyment of sex.
Oh and the most obvious answer – biologically women are the ones paying the cost of pregnancy so it would be only natural that they are MORE SELECTIVE on who gets to penetrate them. You’d think that would be common sense to men! So there is your basic answer.
And ps, all individuals are different so some have higher/lower sex drives/pleasure levels be it man or woman.
thanks to all the women writers on this forum, it helped me to understand many of the issues going around in my married life. Helped me to understand my wife better. hopefully this would improve my/our sex life and remove the misgivings in our relationship.
Thanks everybody.
Hello I’m just joining your discussion here, and I have my own unique opinion about the topic at hand. Many people have said true statements on this forum, and others have just been guessing at stuff and taking out some type of resentment in something of a war of the sexes. I’m 23, a somewhat irrelevant fact, and am very glad to be in my first sexual relationship that I have ever been in for almost 6 months. My partner is Cindy, age 47, and a perfect lover at that; aside from a more youthful, fertile, and pretty partner who’s breath doesn’t smell of cigars and who isn’t an alcoholic, I feel that Cindy is all that I could have ever asked for in a woman! I will try to avoid spontaneous generalizations as much as possible…
I believe that men in general desire a partner more and generally want a girl freind more than woman do as long as they understand what I find to be the most wonderful thing in our world-giving your partner what they want as if it is the purpose of the entire universe (love them!)/be desired for it and possibly even take it a step further by merging with your partner to form children that share the characteristics of your beloved mate. Yes we straight guys always want to have sex because we feel as though we are fulfilling a wonderful purpose when we do so: pleasing a girl for being such a beautiful, desirable one of god’s creations who’s presence we want to exist forever! On the surface, many guys just want to bust a nut into someone because it’s they know it is supposed to be a desirable experience and can be desperate enough to do anything to achieve that experience, but they should be careful not hurt the woman or do anything to make her life more difficult. Sex is more simple and convenient for a man because aside from being cleans STD’s, he has nothing to loose from sex, where as a woman could be stuck with some inconsiderate, ugly, or degrading blockhead who she has for the rest of her life and actually have to be stuck with the consequences of raising a child, possibly even alone, by getting the wrong person! Guys are physically attracted to girls for their beauty, but girls don’t want to be stuck with a guy they have nothing in common with either-they want 2 major things from men and don’t necessarily care if those things come from the same man or not: a nice man to love them for who they are and perhaps help them to take care of their children (if they have any), and a more outstanding, colorful man full of life, talent and energy to impregnate them and provide a healthy, vital, beautiful, or otherwise strong baby or group of babies. I’ve always been nice, but have more recently been struggling with the second one cuz I want to be a sexually desirable mate too ~_^!
Having said all of that, I will also say that sexual intercourse is more pleasurable for women and by many fold! There is like twice as many nerve endings on that clit, and, believe me, if the man has sex with her in the appropriate way, considering all the trivial little things that make intercourse good for her, it will be WAY more pleasurable for her. When she has her orgasms, she creams in ecstacy so long as I do everything just right! I don’t make a sound when I ejaculate. Why? Because it isn’t as pleasurable for men nor is it meant to be; men just think it is because it always feels good and is easily repeated for them whenever they want it (masterbation). It feels better for a girl if done right! He has to stimulate the clit by being close enough to rub the clit, hit the G-spot by lifting her legs etc. I wish sex could be that pleasurable to me, but it is mos certainly not! You may think so until you see how a girl racts when she has like ten intense orgasms back to back in your face and then you come in 3 second and loose the pleasurable feelings completely.
Yep, men want to have sex all the time with beautiful women to copy themselves or because it just feels right on the inside/outside, but woman will enjoy intercourse a LOT more than men if they find the right partner and give him a chance. So there are a lot of factors here! Nothing feels better on the inside, to me, than being good to someone else! Having sex with my current partner hasn’t been able to erase my heart’s desire for a younger girl named Kate who rejected me long ago and who I’ve never even gotten close to having sex with. Kate knows that I have good intentions, and I’ve been in love with her for years. Simply because she’s beautiful though, I have come to understand that a lot or guys want to be with her and will be nice, buy her things, and do whatever she says! I need to make myself awesome enough to stand out and for her to see how great I really am so she’ll want me, and that is a lot easier said than done! By doing so, I have gotten her to like me again, but I think she’s going out with someone else. If I had my way with her I would love her till the end of time, provide her with anything she desires, endure any physical obstacles, have multiple children with her and continue to be hopelessly lovestruck by her wonderful presence and admire her! The lovestruck feeling is the strongest force that I have ever come across! I just hope that I can be a great lover because that much is very important to me. Cindy has taught me how to please a woman to an unbelievable extent, and I want to make one really happy now so she’ll want to stay by my side forever and have children with me.
p.s Sorry I didn’t get to proofread my last comment on this website and fix the typos-the script had some error and just submitted my post without my permission and before I was done with it/fixed the errors, so I had to make another one!
Jesus, I don’t have the tolerance to wade through all the bullshit on the other posts but you douchebags who state that men like sex more need to meet some other women. I am a woman so put me down however you like but I personally love sex and know many other women who do. I’ve met MANY guys with lower sex drives than myself and multiple other women, and really I think that it’s about balanced in the world, it’s just a matter of personal preference. With my current boyfriend of 5 years, we typically have sex at least 2 times a day, every day, with it rotating between who is the one pushing for it each time, but typically both wanting it as much. Don’t tell me because I possess a vagina that I want it less than you, that’s centuries of crap made up just because most of you guys don’t know how to please women.
Anyone notice the batch of feminist comments? Was this blog post linked to from a feminist blog? They came in with the typical femi-lies and myths, not one single ounce of an original thought, just parroting femi-bot manifesto.
No one answered my example.
WHY DO GAY MEN HAVE SEVERAL MAGNITUDES MORE SEX THAN LESBIAN WOMEN?
None of your typical excuses apply. How do you explain THIS? There are very deep studies on gays and lesbians, and lesbians are known to get to know each other for MONTHS before they even have sex, whilst gay men can have sex without even talking one to another.
Another example. They found a direct correlation between the number of partners/frequency of sex and levels of testosterone IN WOMEN.
In other words, if you get a group of 100 women, the highest testosterone women have had the most sex, the lowest testosterone women have had the least sex etc… You can’t blame it on socialization and all that femi-dogma. The science is in. I’m sorry the facts don’t fit new-age dogma.
FACT: The general male population has TEN TIMES more testosterone than the female population.
(excuse coming): “Oh but that’s a generalization bla bla bla, not all women are like that, some men have lower libido, and some women have higher libido”.
INCOVENIENT FACT 2: Even the low-testosterone men have more testosterone than high-testosterone women… SEVERAL TIMES OVER! THE LEAST horny man in the room, has more libido than the horniest woman in that room!
p.s.
You know (anecdotal cases) where a girlfriend says that her boyfriend won’t have sex, and she wanted to have sex all the time? You see this as PROOF that some men have lower libido than women? NOT TRUE. Your girl-friend is ugly and he’d rather masturbate to porn 10 times a day than have sex with her. I’m sorry for this inconvenient truth, its not a lack of libido if a man is not having sex with his girlfriend, its a lack of ATTRACTION. I’d rather have sex with my hand with than a bitter drama-queen who has the sexual skills of pillow.
“”"Don’t tell me because I possess a vagina that I want it less than you, that’s centuries of crap made up just because most of you guys don’t know how to please women.”"
How do explain lesbians vs. gays then? Why is that when you remove a penis from the equation, sex drops by several magnitudes? Why is that when there are only vaginas involved, sex is a rarity?
Are you saying that women don’t know how to please women? That doesn’t make sense. If anything, lesbians would be the best experts at pleasing women, yet they have the LEAST sex of any type of relationship.
When will the man-bashing and misandry stop? Why does EVERYTHING have to be turned into a male-flaw? Why is it always men’s fault? If women want less sex, its men’s fault… Men are getting sick and tired of being used as emotional tampons where we get blamed for anything you dislike in life. Get your own damn happiness and satisfaction in life. Men are choosing to opt out of the role of serving as providers of happiness. Grow up, and get it yourself. Wanna be satisfied? Satisfy yourself, men are opting out of being satisfaction machines and financial providers. Pay your own damn bill, and stroke your own damn clitoris.
“”I’ve met MANY guys with lower sex drives than myself”"
No, you’ve met many guys who’d rather masturbate to porn then have sex with you. I’m sorry to be the bearer of inconvenient truth.